Finding Purpose and Joy
  • Home
  • Mentoring
  • About
  • Blog
  • Contact
  • Media Page
  • Book & Mentoring Reviews
  • 10 STEPS TO FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY
  • Finding Purpose and Joy Audiobook

When should we change ourselves?    

3/30/2016

0 Comments

 
Picture
There are many things in our lives that we have control over and can impact the outcome such as getting a job done well and on time, aren’t there?  On the other hand aren’t there some things that we don’t have control over such as the weather, our tough circumstances, or how another person willingly responds to us?
 
That said, what is the one thing that we always can change?  Isn’t it our self and our attitude?  We can choose to stop for a minute and think about what our best and most effective response could be, can’t we?  Like using soft words rather than harsh words.  Being thankful for all that we do have rather than focusing on what we don’t have.  Being selfless instead of being selfish.  The list goes on. 
 
Some choices will lead to joy and the opposite will lead to anguish.  What choices do and I you make and where is it leading?

Click here to learn about "FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY" book and life mentoring programs
0 Comments

When should you never make major decisions?

3/23/2016

0 Comments

 
Picture
Never make major decisions when you’re feeling bad or hopeless
 
Have you ever felt so bad or depressed that you were willing to make a snap decision to try to get rid of the pain or discomfort?  Isn’t that quick choice typically based on emotion?  Perhaps it could be your marriage, your job, your health, or when there seems to be no light in the tunnel of your life.  In extreme circumstances it can even lead to life altering things such as one filing for divorce or even thinking about taking one’s own life.
 
Here’s the main problem with acting on this negative type of thinking: pain and depression distort reality. It affects your ability to perceive your life in any kind of positive light. It’s the opposite of rose-colored glasses or beer goggles, which make things look better and more attractive than they actually are. Everything that’s viewed through the distortion of depression is negatively affected by it and seems to be worse than it really is.
 
If you find yourself in a very negative state of mind, here are a few thoughts thoughts to consider…
  • Be still, let life slow down, and pray for peace.
  • Seek a trusted friend or therapist to be able to talk openly about what is bothering you.
  • Realize that things are rarely as good as they seem or as bad as they seem.
 
Even if it takes time, strive diligently to find some peace and calm before making life-changing decisions.  I promise that when you look back on it, you’ll be relieved that you did.

Click to learn about "FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY" book and life mentoring programs
0 Comments

DO YOU MAKE THE MOST EFFECTIVE LIFE CHOICES?

3/16/2016

0 Comments

 
Picture
Many times when things aren’t working out the way we want them to, we spend time dwelling on “If only”, “I should have”, “They should have”, “I wish they would just …”, etc.  Doesn’t it waste a lot of time and energy?  Maybe it even locks you up and prevents you from moving forward.
 
Doesn’t it make more sense that the sooner we can accept “the way things are”, it will free us up to make the best choices to move forward in a meaningful way?  Wouldn’t this approach more likely result in an attitude of taking responsibility instead of blaming and feeling like a victim?  And in-turn, won’t it probably reduce stress as well?
 
Are you having feelings of being a ‘victim’ in any area now?  If so, would you think about it and then based on reality, choose wisely on how best to move forward?

Click here to learn about "FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY" book and life mentoring programs
0 Comments

HOW SMART ARE YOU?

3/9/2016

0 Comments

 
Picture
Many years ago when I first started to supervise people, I was told that I should be able and willing to do all of things that I would ask the people that I led to do.
 
As the years progressed, I started realizing that when I tried to operate that way, I was really limiting progress.  Most of these people were blessed with skills and abilities that I didn’t have.  So if we were going to do our very best, my job was to help each person find their sweet spots and then give them plenty of rope.  Initially my ego got in the way causing me to reel them in.  As years have gone by, I have been learning that it is far better to follow Henry Kaiser’s advice.  The result is less stress and more accomplishment and satisfaction for all. 
 
Isn’t it ironic that we can become smarter by recognizing and encouraging the smartness of others?  So think for just a minute.  How smart are you?

Click here to learn about "FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY" book and life mentoring programs
0 Comments

HOW ARE YOU AT LISTENING?

3/2/2016

0 Comments

 
Picture
Have you ever thought much about one of the greatest needs of human beings?  It's really a pretty simple principle.  We all just want to be valued and understood.  
 

So how can we do that to others?  Doesn't it make sense that a really good way would be to listen well to them first?  It doesn't mean that we need to agree or disagree with them... just understand them.  And then typically when we do that, isn't it likely that they are much more willing to listen to what we have to say?

Listen first and listen well.  Then notice how much yo
ur conversations and relationships improve.  Also, notice how much more you learn.
 

Click here to learn about 'FINDING PURPOSE AND JOY" book and life mentoring
0 Comments

    Archives

    May 2018
    December 2017
    October 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014

    Author 
    Roger Laidig

    Since his retirement in 2011, Roger Laidig has been filled with the desire to help people find Purpose and Joy in life.

    RSS Feed

    Picture

    Categories

    All

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.