As you look at the black frame to the left what do you see? Most people will see and point out the dark spot. So the question is, “Can you see that it’s really a nice white space but just happens to have a small dark spot in it?” Isn’t that pretty much how we view other people . . . our spouse, our kids, our co-workers, our friends, and definitely our enemies? Don’t we typically tend to only see their ‘black spots’, rather than all of the white (good) in them?
Stop and think about it for a minute, when someone is critical of you and only points out your mistakes, does it motivate you and build trust? If you’re really honest, with rare exception isn’t the answer “no”? So if that’s the case for you, how do you thing it affects others when you just focus on what’s wrong with them?
Would you consider developing a new habit of intentionally looking for the good in others and then share it with them? Who knows, maybe they will even begin seeing good in you as well.