Doesn’t it make more sense that the sooner we can accept “the way things are”, it will free us up to make the best choices to move forward in a meaningful way? Wouldn’t this approach more likely result in an attitude of taking responsibility instead of blaming and feeling like a victim? And in-turn, won’t it probably reduce stress as well?
Are you having feelings of being a ‘victim’ in any area now? If so, would you think about it and then based on reality, choose wisely on how best to move forward?