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HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE PLATINUM RULE?

8/25/2015

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You probably all are familiar with The Golden Rule that says, “Treat others as you would want to be treated”.  Sounds like a good rule, doesn’t it?  Many times it may be.  On the other hand, there can be times that it can be a really destructive rule. 

I had to learn that the hard way.  When Susan and I first got married, I liked to run 10K’s, go to lots of sporting events, etc.  So naturally, I thought that since doing these things was the way I would want to be treated, that’s the way I should treat Susan by including her in these fun activities.  As our marriage progressed, I soon learned that Susan wasn’t enjoying these things the way I did and it began to cause us to grow apart.  This provided me the opportunity to learn one of the many hard lessons I needed to grow from.

Around that time I learned about a rule called The Platinum Rule that was authored by Dr. Tony Alessandra.  Tony just changed one word in The Golden Rule. It is “Treat others as they would want to be treated”.  Isn’t it amazing that just changing the word ‘you’ to ‘they’ makes such a profound difference from being very selfish to very selfless.  It’s a game changer from being polarizing to being very magnetic, isn’t it?

Take a minute right now to think.  How would your mate, friend, or co-worker want to be treated?  Who can you begin applying The Platinum Rule to right now? 


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Terry I
8/26/2015 12:08:36 pm

This is a perversion of what Jesus meant when he stated the correct version of the Golden Rule. Since we would like to be treated with Godly respect, we need to treat others with that same respect. However, if someone wishes to be treated in a way God did not intend, I will not comply. Example: If a man wants to be addressed as a woman I won't do it. If I see him go into the same rest room my wife just went into I will stop him. In other words, I have no obligation to treat anyone contrary to God's law even if they wish it. What you are talking about is treating your wife with common courtesy. Please be very careful when correcting our Lord.

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Roger link
8/27/2015 03:23:41 am

Thanks for your feedback. You offer an interesting perspective. At the same time, this post is not about correcting the Lord. No one can or should do that.

The Platinum Rule is not intended to do away with the Golden Rule. It's simply intended to clarify it. No doubt, there can be mis-interpretations of the Platinum Rule as well.

At the same time, doesn't the Lord instruct us to restore others 'gently'. It seems to me that sometimes Christians are so bent on telling those that they don't believe as they do that that are wrong and are very confrontational. Does that typically end well? Isn't it better to invite people to 'come as they are' and let the Lord do the changing through the work of the Holy Spirit? Even Jesus told the Pharisees "Whoever is without sin, cast the first stone", didn't he?

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Terry I
8/27/2015 10:17:05 am

Yes indeed he did. Pointing fingers and demeaning people is contrary to the Golden Rule. Remember though that Jesus used different approaches for different people and different occasions. He used a soft and loving approach with those that did not understand and needed to be gently guided. He also became righteously angry even to the point of name-calling and violence with those that would not heed his repeated warnings. We need to be sensitive to the HS to discern what He would have us do in each situation.
The Golden Rule can stand on it's own without need of further clarification. When we start to mess with it we can run the risk of misinterpreting it. Just something to think about...Thanks for listening.

Roger link
8/27/2015 11:15:26 am

Just curious Terry, how many times are the words 'Golden Rule' used in the Bible.

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Terry I
8/27/2015 11:37:30 am

The same amount of times that "The Ten Commandments." are used.
I'm not sure when Matthew 7:12 was officially named, but it has stood the test of time for two thousand years due to it's simplicity and practicality. The wisdom in those simple words of Jesus have driven the course of human relationships for centuries even in the secular world.

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